21 Ways To Be A Happier You

12.Take Out Time For Yourself:
Every minute we are busy doing something or the other.How many of us take time out to be absolutely alone with our own self? Being alone give each one of us breathing space that we nee.Yes, even from our spouses.Being alone gives us a chance to think quietly.It helps us ponder over things that we would like to do and dreams that we would like to realise.It enables us to be at peace with ourselves and makes us happier.

13.Create a peaceful environment:
When we live and work in a properly arranged environment, it is much easier to develop and maintain a positive attitude.Make the surroundings restfulEnsure optimal lighting and temperature.Keep the rooms clutter-free; put in comfortable furniture.Bring in plants, music, and whatever else that keeps you relaxed.When we are calm and at peace our pulse rate and blood pressure decrease, our muscles relax.This helps us to concentrate better on the job at hand.A job well done-be it cooking, cleaning, or office work-brings with it a sense of achievement and elation.

14.Be Less Reactive:
Your kid did not clear uo her plate after dinner.The driver in the car on your left swerved too close to you, the bank clerk was being too slow.Do not get bothered and react in the expected manner.Let it pass.At all costs do not shout whatever the provocation.Anger makes it impossible for you to think rationally.Moreover, a reactive person who shouts is a real turn-off for others.Note that being non-overreactive does not let any stress build up in you.You remain more focussed on the job at hand.

15.Bring Humour Into Your Life:
By choice, have occasions that make you laugh happily into your day.Share jokes with your family, watch a humorous film, and tell your colleagues funny incidents.In short, anything that will amuse you and others around you.

16.Accept People As They Are-Even Your Spouse:
If only my husband would help with some chores in the morning.If only my mother-in-law would take more responsibility of the children, if only my father-in-law would remember to lower the TV volume, things can be different.We expect everyone to cxhange according to our point of view.Obviously when this does not happen, we are disillusioned and we keep complaining.This brings negativity into our relationship with these people.Do accept people as they are.Once others see your unconditional love for them, they will try thier best to do things that will please you.

17.Be Grateful:
Begin by noticing in what way you are dependent on others-your family, your friends, relatives, neighbours, and even people who serve you such as servants, shopkeepers and so on.Let them know that you genuinely appreciate all that they do for you.While there may certainly be differences with them, gratitude will enable you to appreciate, rather than struggle against those differences.Remember, gratitude, inner peace, and happiness go hand in hand.

18.Stop Blaming Others:
We always believe that if anything has gone wrong with things, it must be someone else's fault.In life, others are responsible for our frustration, stress, and unhappiness.This means that we do not control our life: our frame of mind is dependent on the actions and behavior of others.For a change hold yourself responsible for your happiness, for your circumstances, for your life.This will put you in charge of your happiness.

19.Make Someone Else's Day Happier:
Everyday, resolve to so atleast one thing that will make someone other than you happy.It may be as small a thing as buying milk for your neighbour or giving away a frock for your maid's daughter or giving up your seat in the bus for a woman with a child.These little, often unnoticed acts of kindness, will fill you with warmth that will glow inside you all day long and before long, become your way of life.More importantly, dont talk about the good deed to anyone at home, workplace or elsewhere.

20.Tell Your Family And Friends That You Love Them:
We know that we love our family and friends, and they love us in return.Yet, we are at times too shy or too stiff to utter them to the people we love.Dont hesitate, Say what you feel to your loved ones and you will be filled with an inner peace and confidence on hearing them say the same words to you.

21.Keep A Diary:
Always keep a diary and pen with you.Make a habit of writing down all the good things that happen to you during the day.By writing down about the precious moments of your life, they become a part of our lives. The positive feeling comes back whenever we revisit happy moments through our diary.

So next time you are unhappy, remind yourself that you and you alone can make yourself happy.

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